Raising children in this day and age is challenging. You can’t do it properly without the Word of God. Even with that does it sometimes feel like you aren’t doing all that you should for your kids? Do you think that you just can’t do enough. I think that feeling is natural. I know we feel that way sometimes. Who doesn’t want to do all that they can for their kids? God is no different. He wants us to walk in the fullness of His power. He has given us all things to enjoy. Let’s look at I Timothy 6:17 here.
Command those who are rich in this present world not to be arrogant nor to put their hope in wealth, which is so uncertain, but to put their hope in God, who richly provides us with everything for our enjoyment. I Timothy 6:17
Let’s establish a few things. First, this book of the Bible is written to the church. It is not written to folks who have not received Jesus as their Lord and saviour. So God is warning us rich people . . . yes, that’s YOU!! God’s plan for your life is for you to be rich so that you can use your wealth for the work of the Kingdom of God. I know I’m a little off track here, but I hope that helps somebody. That’s another post.
Let’s go on to the second part of this verse which teaches us that God provides us everything for our enjoyment. If God provides us everything . . . then there is nothing that He has not provided. Included in that is provision for our children. God has provided everything that our kids need to be successful in this world and to walk out the call that God has placed on their lives. That means He is satisfied in what He has done for us. It also means that what He has done for us is a finished work. Not only is He satisfied, He is pleased. He is satisfied and pleased with the work of His son Jesus . . . so if He can be pleased and satisfied with His son . . . you can be pleased and satisfied with your children too.
Understand that God being pleased with you is based on the work of Jesus, not on your works, because you can’t save yourself. You have to receive the finished work of Christ. You do that by faith (Ephesians 2:8) and faith pleases God. (Hebrews 11:6) So your satisfaction in your children has to be based on who God says they are and not what you may be seeing in their behavior right now. Your words have to line up with God’s words concerning them. If not you won’t walk in the fullness of God. Obviously your child has a part to play in this as well, but that has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR CONFESSION.
So, you have to be satisfied with your child rearing as long as you are acting according to the Spirit of God. You have to believe that God is going to provide for and protect your children. Psalm 127:1 talks about the Lord building the house, and if not, those that labor do so in vain. Unless you are being led by God in your child rearing, you are laboring in vain. Once you yield to God’s direction concerning raising your children, you will begin to get wisdom from God as to how to deal with their school situations, homework, teachers, peers, counselors, the kid next door, sibling rivalry, ex husbands and ex wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, etc. . . but you must have faith enough to believe He will do what He said . . . despite what you see your kids doing. You must hold fast to your confession of faith without wavering. (Hebrews 10:23) Now that is really a hard one! It’s easy to say what kids are doing and are not doing, but can you look at them in all their mess and declare with all boldness that they will be who God called them to be and that they are the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus? Can you stop measuring them by who the world says they should be and measure them against what God called them to be? Can you do that through your tears and heartache as you see them make wrong choices and bad decisions . . . as you see them headed down the path to destruction? Remember that you walk by faith and not by sight as is taught in 2 Corinthians 5:7. And you must know that God will bring that change to pass, it may be years before you see it, or you may not even see it (it’s not about you and you seeing it), it may be on their death-bed, but you have to believe God. He said in his Word to train up a child in the way that he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6) Be satisfied in Christ in what you do to raise your kids. If God is pleased with what you are doing, you should be too. I welcome your thoughts and comments.