How do you know when you have the wrong man? Obviously, the fruit of his life will tell you. You know a tree by the fruit that it bears and the regenerated man who has the Spirit of God on the inside of him, who allows the Spirit to work in his life will produce fruit and these fruit will remain. See Galatians 5:22
But, understand that God has a position for you, young woman, and in that position He can bless you beyond your wildest imagination (Ephesians 3:20). Let’s look at Proverbs 31:10 The verse begins the discussion of what is described as a virtuous woman. Let me begin by saying a virtuous woman is a woman who has a relationship with God and lives for Christ. Are you a virtuous woman? See, once you know who you are, you know what you deserve . . . and you know that God has the best for you in every area of your life and that there is no “let down” or substitutes in God. You just have to be willing to wait on the Lord and allow Him to move with his timing. The enemy can drive you to be impatient and cause you to forfeit what God has for you. Remember Proverbs 10:22 teaches that the blessing of the Lord maketh rich and adds no sorrow to it. If you have toil or sorrow added to your relationship from this man you think is supposed to be your boyfriend or husband, then it doesn’t sound like it is from God. Don’t misunderstand me here, relationships are challenging and require lots of work . . . but when both parties have a relationship with Jesus Christ, and He is the head of that marriage, IT CANNOT FAIL.
Once you know that you are virtuous and you see those other verses in that chapter that talk about your husband, you begin to see how God intended this thing to work. Proverbs 18:22 lets us know that the man is supposed to find the wife. So, young lady you need to be patient and know that the man who God has called to be the head of your household is being prepared for you . . . just like you are being prepared for him. YOU HAVE TO WAIT ON THE LORD and you can’t speak against the Word. You can’t say there are no good men and you can’t settle. If you receive any old somebody who steps to you . . . you are inviting trouble which can lead to abuse, hurt, mistrust, anger and lost time. Proverbs 31:23 says that the virtuous woman’s husband is respected among the elders . . . respect among the elders comes from a relationship with God. The virtuous woman has a respected husband . . . Wow, look at God . . . if you look at the TV you see reality shows that arent reality depicted discord between husband wives and showing people who live together and fornicate . . . completely outside of the marriage covenant . . . that’s another post.
See, the man who God has for you has to be submitted to God BEFORE he can be the head of your household. The order is Christ is the head of the church and the man is the head of the wife. I Corinthians 11:1-3. There is no headship in man if he is not submitted to the headship of Christ.
If you are wanting a man . . . ask God to give you peace and help you wait until the man of God that God has for you comes to find you. JUST BE READY WHEN HE COMES! Spend time with the Lord going from faith to faith and becoming the woman of God He called YOU to be. If you have a boyfriend or a man who is not in Christ and who is mistreating you . . . seek God as to how to get out of that situation. Repent and ask God to forgive you and that man and seek his plan for your restoration.