No matter where you cook it, be it on a stove, on a grill, in an oven, in a microwave, it’s still bacon. People are the same way. You can’t expect to take a person outside of his or her comfort zone and think that person will change to be what YOU think that person should be. Relationships don’t work that way. Many times the attraction is only to the outward appearance and we hope by taking the outward appearance to a different environment, we can change a person. That environment, whether it be a physical location or a mental location, is a place of contentment and comfort for us. It may be a place of discomfort and confusion for them. Matthew 7:5 teaches us to deal with our own issues before we try to deal with the issues of others. You have to be complete in God before you can be in a relationship with someone else. If you think that you can change him to make his actions, values and thoughts line up with his good looks, and what you want them to be, ladies you are mistaken. Only God can change people and He can’t do it unless they want to be changed. Make sure that whomever you decide to date or marry has a relationship with God. Well how do you do that? It’s not a matter of just going to church or singing in a choir. It doesn’t matter if his daddy is a deacon or pastor of the church. It doesn’t matter if his mother is the pastor or head of the women’s ministry. What matters is the fruit that you see from HIS life. Galatians 5:22 informs us what the fruit of the spirit are. Anyone who professes to have a relationship with Christ should be producing these fruit as part of his or her lifestyle. Check out the fruit. Don’t try to change people…renew your own mind to the Word of God and watch God work that situation out for you.