Forgiveness is a choice. You have to choose to forgive and that can be one of the hardest things you HAVE to do. I am convinced that you can’t truly forgive unless you have a relationship with God, so the first thing to do is ask God to be a part of your life and show you how to forgive.
A key to being able to forgive others is knowing that God forgives us. We need to be forgiven because we mess up and sometimes we hurt people. We need to be forgiven of sin because we are born sinners because of Adam’s sin (Adam and Eve in the garden of Eden).
Psalm 86:4-5 Gladden the soul of your servant, for to you, O Lord, do I lift up my soul. For you, O Lord, are good and forgiving, abounding in steadfast love to all who call upon you.
Matthew 5:22-24 But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother will be liable to judgment; whoever insults his brother will be liable to the council; and whoever says, ‘You fool!’ will be liable to the hell of fire. So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.
The Word is teaching here that we should be reconciled to our brother before we come and offer a gift to God. In other Words, don’t come offering a gift to God without making things right with your brother. Notice here that it doesn’t matter who was right or wrong! You be reconciled. You make it right. You ask God to help you forgive and move forward.
Let’s get practical here on how you can forgive others who may have done you wrong or offended you . . . for no reason or for a reason. First get in right relationship with God. Ask Him to be Lord of your life. Second ask Him to forgive you for your sins . . . if there are things that you have done where YOU need forgiveness, known or unknown. Third find scriptures on forgiveness in the Bible and begin to meditate (repeat over and over) on them. That’s as easy as a Google search. Fourth, go to God sincerely and ask Him to help you forgive whoever offended you. Fifth, realize that this is a process that may take several days or weeks. During this time you need to continue to meditate in the scripture, find you some faith buddies to hang out with, join a Bible teaching church and make sure your confession is that you will be able to forgive because you know you have to forgive for God to forgive you. Have a blessed night and send us an email at firstname.lastname@example.org with questions.