Doing things according to the Word of God is always better. He teaches us that His yoke is easy and His burden is light. God ordained family. It was His idea. He designed it such that children would have a father and a mother and He intended for them to be married. Hebrews 13:4 teaches that marriage is honorable and that the marriage bed is undefiled. That means that you can have all of the sex you want in whatever positions you want, as often as you want, with whatever toys you want, with your spouse. That’s how God intended . . . you shouldnt have to worry about infidelity, the baby daddy drama or sexually transmitted infections. The enemy has had marriage under attack for years. That ‘s why you see so many who have had children outside of wedlock. It is fueled by rebellion against the institute of marriage and folks don’t even know. (Let me know if you want more here) The enemy is seeking whom he may devour and his intent is to destroy you and part of the way he is doing it is by attacking the family that God designed. The devil has designed it so that the head of house is absent and relationships between the missing head of the house and the children are poor. Think about it, when Christ is absent, life is absent. When the daddy is absent, the head is absent and someone whom God did not design to be the head has to be the head.
So, what if you have a baby daddy? This post is not one of condemnation. God’s mercy is available to you and it’s new every morning. Lamentations 3:22-23 teaches us this and goes on to talk about God’s love for you. No matter what you’ve done, God loves you and He has a plan and provision waiting for you . . . yes even if you have a no good baby daddy who is not supportive financially, who is not around and who has no interest in being part of his child’s life.
Here’s what you should do. First, don’t talk negatively about the baby daddy, especially to your child. This is part of the enemy’s plan to get your child to be angry and hateful toward his/her father. I believe this is one of the seeds that produces the fruit of homosexuality . . . some women say that because their father was “no good”, all men are no good and “I can find my satisfaction with a woman.” I also think that boys who grow up in “women only” households may be under more influence to be homosexual because they have not had demonstrated for them what a man of God should be.
Even though the baby daddy may not do what he should, the Word teaches us that we should honor our mother and father. Your child should honor the father . . . if it’s only praying for him and refraining from speaking negative about him. WHEN YOU AND YOUR CHILD BAD TALK THE BABY DADDY YOU ARE DOING HARM TO YOURSELVES. YOU ARE SETTING YOURSELF AGAINST THE WORD OF GOD AND BLOCKING BLESSINGS THAT WOULD OTHERWISE BE FOR YOU AND YOUR CHILD. Please hear what I’m saying here. Instead start to speak life into the life of your baby’s daddy. Call him blessed and highly favored. Say that he is the righteousness of God and say that he provides for his children. Say that he is growing in God and that he will fulfill the plan that God has for his life. Lift him up in prayer and pray that he will make Jesus the Lord of his life. Call him an excellent provider for his child. Even if you can’t see this in the natural, you have to say it by faith. It doesnt matter if you want to be with him or not. The bible teaches that you can have what you say. If you want your situation to turn around, it will only change if you change what you are saying. You don’t have to talk about how you have everything that you need and you don’t need the child’s father involved. That’s a lie straight from the pits of hell. It’s not about the money and things that you have. He said in His Word that He would never leave you nor forsake you. It’s about doing things the way God intended . . . living the Word (will) of God so that all that He has is made available to you. If you want more in this area email us at firstname.lastname@example.org Be blessed.